Flora observed that when the children talked about birthdays, they found a common ground and shared excitement and a sense of anticipation. It became a way to share personal experiences and have someone stop, even for a few minutes, and listen, because everyone could relate to birthdays.
Traditionally, the class recognizes birthdays at circle time with the donation and reading of a ‘birthday book’. Teacher Flora projected a deeper value in the experience, giving the children the opportunity to engage in more reciprocal dialogue with the birthday child and the group of children by giving and receiving birthday cards.
Over time, the children’s cards have shown more thoughtfulness in both the drawings and the words.
Flora has been asking – What do you think he or she likes? What do you want to draw for him or her?
Tyler: “What do you like?” (for his birthday card)
Miles: “I like aliens and rocketships.”
Quotes from cards:
“I like how Miles plays.” -Lola (to Miles)
“I love to play with you on the rocket cars.” -Tyler (to Dashiell)
“I like his voice.” –Lola (to Dashiell)
“I love you, Sarah.” –Tyler (to Sarah)
This practice offers a new perspective on the children’s sense of themselves. Understanding how others see them validates and solidifies relationships and gives the children a stronger sense of who they are in school.
Flora, Amy and Kris